One of the things I realised in the early phase of retirement is this — even though I have more time on hand, I have less time on the planet.

Truth be told, I am in the fourth and final quarter of my life. This realisation made me want to choose my goals with more care, intention, and heart.

I want to focus on simple, everyday things that give me joy. I want an uncomplicated life — one where I let go of what no longer matters and hold on to what truly fulfils me.

So I travelled back to the last time life felt that way — to my childhood, when happiness flowed easily, without effort or planning.

That set me thinking. Perhaps the best way to reset my goals now is to revisit “little me” — the version of myself who instinctively knew how to stay joyful.

Here are eight pearls of wisdom from the “little me”, and how they are shaping my life today:

  1. Live for today — make the most of what you have or what you get.
  2. Pursue one thing at a time — pause to enjoy the happiness of each bit.
  3. Don’t carry excess baggage — let past setbacks teach you, or let them go.
  4. Trust your instincts — don’t fear failure; just go for what feels right.
  5. Avoid self-pity — what didn’t come your way wasn’t meant for you, or will come when it should.
  6. Maximise fun and joy — make hay while the sun shines.
  7. Don’t hold grudges — each day is new; don’t let yesterday cloud it.
  8. Skip unnecessary ruminations — no point crying over spilt milk.

These eight lessons form a gentle blueprint — a way to design the current phase of my life with clarity and delight.